Self Confidence “A feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment.”

As a plus size woman I have struggled with self Confidence for quite some time. Growing up I never felt pretty or good enough because of my size. Sometimes society makes us feel like we have to be size two to be beautiful. One thing that I use to do, and sometimes still do without even knowing it, is compare myself to other people. Over the years, I have realized the people you surround yourself with also play a major role in your self confidence. Falling in love with yourself is important to help boost your self-confidence as well. Daily affirmations help me get through the day, especially when I am feeling low about myself. Finally stepping out of your comfort zone will do a world of good in the end when trying to boost your self confidence.

Comparing ourselves to others is so common; I do it all of the time and not even realize it. Whether we realize it or not social media plays a major role in our lives. Instagram models are a really big thing now. Constantly I am scrolling through Instagram looking at different girls trying to figure out how I can look like that. One thing I have to tell myself is that I am beautiful the way that I am. Even as plus size women we all have different shapes, body sizes, and features. We are all made to be different. When we compare ourselves to others we are lowering our own self confidence without realizing it. When we are scrolling through social media we should be gaining confidence by seeing other plus size women with their high self esteem.

The people we choose to surround ourselves with have a lot to do with our self confidence. If the people we are around are constantly calling us ugly names we are going to soon start believing them. I have experienced firsthand “friends” knocking me down because I was plus size. When we get rid of those toxic people our self confidence will sky rocket. My friends that I have now make me feel beautiful on my worst days. For years I never felt the need to dress up because I was plus size. Now I dress up all of the time because the people I am around boost me.

Loving ourselves for who we are is important. Love everything about yourself flaws and all. One thing I have always hated about myself was my thighs. It took some time for me to embrace my thighs and now one of my mottos is “thighs as big as my dream”, I took something that I thought was a flaw and made it a positive. Accept your body for how it is, curves, hips, thighs, rolls, stretch marks, everything, and don’t care about what people think and say.

Daily affirmations might sound corny but they work. I have sticky notes all over my room and bathroom with motivational quotes. One of my favorite quotes is from Gabourey Sidibe, it says, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. I wear colors that I really like, I wear makeup that makes me feel pretty, and it really helps. It doesn't have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see.” That quote has gotten me through some of the roughest days.

Finally step out of your comfort zone; you will never grow if you don’t. If you want to wear those shorts wear them, if you want to wear that two piece wear it. It took years for me to be comfortable in a swimsuit or in a romper because of my thighs being big. Once I finally took that step and realized that I was beautiful regardless, I was good to go. Once you step out of your comfort zone you will never want to look back.

Size does not define beauty. Self confidence does take a while to gain but I promise you once you gain it you will never lose it. Hopefully these five tips that I have shared with you will help in your journey on gaining self confidence.

-Taylor Nycole