Self Love


(ˈˌself ˈləv/)


Regard for one's own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).


(ˈˌself əˈstēm/)


Confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.

Growing up my self esteem was at an all time low and did not love myself. I never felt pretty. As I grew older I realized that I needed to love myself for who I was. Recently I have been feeling down in the dumps and I feel like I’m back tracking. Sometimes I wake up and like what I see and other times I do not. I find myself comparing me to other people, something that I know I shouldn’t do. I have a friend that I can talk to about almost anything. One day he basically told me about how I need to love myself and how I need to put myself first. If you love yourself first everything else will fall into place. I worry too much about what other people think of me or what they say about me I end up putting myself on the back burner. Sometimes I feel like the things I want out of relationship and friendships are unrealistic so I find myself just settling, even though in the back of my head I know I deserve so much better. I think that too ugly, too fat, too dark, etc. to enjoy the better things in life. It’s been some relationships where I dealt with things I know I shouldn’t have because I didn’t think I could do any better. I let friend do me bad and run over because I didn’t think I could find any loyal ones. I let certain people and situations get the best of me sometimes. I beat myself up about things that I know I can’t change and over other people’s actions. I fill my head full of, what if’s and maybe’s. I look for others to support me, love, and have the same heart as I do. In reality nobody will love you like how you love you or like how god loves you. You cannot let others set the tone of your day or your life even. Once you fall in love with yourself nobody will be able to tell you NOTHING! Self love is the elixir of an immortal heart. Do what make you happy and do not care what anybody has to say about it. You have to learn to live for you. Other humans should never have control over our lives. I get down and sad when people betray me and talk bad about me but I realize now that it’s all a part of life and its going to either make me or break me. I definitely do not want to let it break me. I am a flawed person who is working towards being the best person I can be. I have things I want to work on for MYSELF. From this day forward I will love me first. I will not let any person or situation break me down.

“Self respect, self worth and self love, all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.” –Rob Liano